Meditating on what is around us now, I come to the conclusion that we, as humans, although we are the same species, do not bear fruit all at once, in the same season.
The phenomenon of “measuring” oneself against others can be detrimental from a psycho-energetic-emotional perspective for several reasons, as it creates:
-Unrealistic expectations,
-Frustrations and the feeling that you haven’t done enough or that you remain mediocre,
-Wasted precious time and constructive energy.
Additionally, comparison structures a constant outward, peripheral, external focus that directly affects that state of well-being we yearn for.
1.Comparison is unfair.
People are different in terms of life experiences, physical, mental, social, and financial abilities, circumstances, and current states. When you compare yourself to others, you often don’t take into account this unique and complex context.
2.Comparison distorts reality.
Usually, we see only the glamorous side of others' lives and do not truly understand their inner challenges. Especially in the era of social media, people tend to present a digital “self,” and the human brain is not yet updated to this distorted alter ego, which creates a distorted and idealized image of others.
3.Comparison leads to disappointment and depression.
Constant comparison with others can cause pressure and feelings of inadequacy. These negative perceptions can lead to decreased self-esteem and even depression, as you focus more on what you lack instead of appreciating what you already have around you.
4.Comparison destroys intrinsic motivation and creativity.
Constantly comparing yourself with others can affect your personal motivation; you may end up feeling discouraged or overwhelmed by their achievements and success. Instead of focusing on your essence, progress, and expansion, on your contribution to the world or self-actualization, you are caught up in unhealthy competition with those around you.
5.Comparison can make you lose your authenticity.
You focus more on others' standards rather than your own values and priorities. You hinder yourself by distancing yourself from who you truly are.
6.Comparison restricts your access to friendship and healthy relating.
It subtly undermines trust, communication, and connection. It restricts you from being present with others, creating distance and tension.
Until you understand how this comparison originated, analyze and dismantle mental patterns, internalize and transform it into an honest and dedicated path, set goals that align with your values and interests, and understand at a fundamental level that everyone has their unique path, perhaps you should take a moment to look around this fall and learn valuable lessons from other species through COMPARISON.
If you need an objective “comparative” eye for your endeavor, just let me know and I’ll be happy to help! A.
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