I'm sharing a case I remembered today, Valentine's day, which is quite telling enough to invite you to explore widely the Reality around you, in case of any illness, whatever its location.
Don't limit yourself to information found in the media, on social networks, groups, in various systems or methods of healing.
As far as I am concerned there is no :
-general valid precautions,
-universal solutions,
-tips and tricks or other shortcuts when talking about the body or the mind-body unit.
The only remedy that does not fail is within us if we know where to look, how to awaken it, how to use it.
I worked with a lady with an advanced form of periodontal disease.
This medical entity affects the supporting tissues of the tooth including the bone socket and in my experience it is a systemic disease (not strictly localized in the oral cavity) with a multifactorial etiology.
The lady had done various classical dental interventions but the process of destruction seemed not to want to stop but continues slowly but surely its course.
As tissues with diverse structure were involved both gingiva and ligaments and bone , already 2 teeth were lost by excessive mobility, it was not clear to me what was the exact line of questioning (if you don't have Clarity in the working hypothesis you move on false tracks and in biology nothing changes).
I first set out to navigate the orientation to practical steps I was going to take at home, with links to older conditions, saw occlusal disorders present , addressed other skeletal imbalances, noted family history of early tooth loss, co-regulated the autonomic nervous system under sympathetic influence due to continual stimuli of uncertainty and threat of tooth loss. to give my brain further access to the hustle and bustle of the mind.
Since she didn't share anything targeted, I asked what had happened in her life in the last 2-3 years to the present.
What was interesting was the unexpected response, "everything is fine, I am content, fulfilled with my life".
Exactly what I was not looking for , I preferred to give me conflicts, traumas, reasons...
So to make my story short, I started to explore the terrain of my patient's existence.
I reached the relational area.
At 53 years old she was single, never married, never had relationships longer than 5 years.
Now she wanted one but it wasn't happening.
I found an older relationship in undergrad, with a Greek colleague, very nice, fulfilling but it ended at the end of her studies that the man went back to his country and her parents wouldn't let her go with him.
she remained with a strong attachment there and in subsequent relationships sought out that One.
Next I wanted to see how he already had that relationship, as situations change but the essence remains .
And here I hit a wall " I don't have that kind of relationship right now isn't it clear?"
We watched together as the people in her life brought pieces of what that relationship brought but it didn't seem to connect....
Then I remembered an even older somewhat similar dental case, with a painful childhood trauma where the dissociation from self was so great that the relationship with self was as good as absent.
And I asked the same question here:
"How do you bring to yourself what you expect from the person in the relationship?"
Thus came the great perceptual gain since due to dissociation (I also found in her case a painful event when her parents didn't take her with them leaving her with her grandparents over the summer ) she also had no contact with herself, her emotions, her priorities, she became somehow subordinate to her mother.
I gently persisted in asking questions: how does she give herself what the perfect partner would give her until she got teary-eyed and said:
"I'm clinging to an external illusory image and life comes to loosen my teeth to let her go...."
Exactly!
We had a juicy coaching run until the mind had a whole perception, no longer holding on to an expired form...
Certainly the process is not over, we have worked on attachment, we still have to work on resentments from other relationships, the traumatic childhood event and other subordinations, but with this small step :
-saw the meaning of affection
-saw that it did not "happen to her" but was created with her perceptual help
-the magic that the mind-brain-body gearbox does to restore us to the whole of who we are,
-allowed herself to reconnect to herself and
-reduced by a few percent the nervous trigger of tissue destruction on the periphery.
WHY haven't traditional treatments brought healing?
Hypotheses can be many, I'm not judging now but you know it's a saying:
"Life beats film"
I enrich it and say:
"Life beats medicine because Medicine tries to control Life!
Keep in mind:
ALL YOU NEED IS ALREADY WITHIN YOU !
If you need my guidance, please leave me a message and we'll connect!
With Love
A.
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